To tell or not to tell, that is the question!

Recently someone posed a question during class, "When you read someone elses BaZi chart and you come across a potentially heart-breaking situation such as death/separation, critical illness, extra-marital affairs, do you immediately tell them, for example, they will die soon or that their spouse is having an affair? Do you tell them that destiny is fixed and that there is nothing they can do? Do you also tell them that they need not to seek a second opinion?”

One of the first thing we need to learn as a BaZi practitioner is responsibility. We need to be responsible for the things we say because the repercussion is so great that it can change ones life drastically, for better or for worst. Clients come to consult us because they needed help. In return, we must provide appropriate solutions, to find a way out of their predicaments and NOT make it worst than before they seek our help.

Our job is to determine the potential root-cause of the problem. A client comes to see us and we see that there is a potential for a heart-attack to occur during a certain time, do we say they will suffer from heart-attack and die? Our job is to identify that possibility and get them to seek medical examination as soon as possible. It is not our job to provide a medical diagnosis and forgone conclusion.

Life is an amazing journey. There are many ways to solve a problem. Why do we need to close ourselves to only one solution to solve a problem? We should always be searching for alternate "route" until we have exhausted all options. Please do not be "God" and tell the clients that our analysis is final and there is no need to seek a second opinion. That is the most irresponsible action we can do as a BaZi Practitioner.

A BaZi chart tells us our potentials and opportunities that we can use during the journey of our lives. It is telling us what we are good at, what we can do to make our life a more comfortable place to live in. However, we still need to take the necessary actions to turn the opportunities into reality. It does not happen just because your BaZi chart says so.